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When Comparison Hijacks Your Brain

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There is nothing quite like opening social media for one harmless little peek and leaving with a full-blown identity crisis.

One minute you’re checking on something interesting, and the next minute your brain is acting like somebody else’s win means your business is suddenly in trouble.

I don’t get on Instagram much these days because LinkedIn is more my jam, but I popped on recently after hearing about a woman doing the YAP challenge who made $1.2 million on her launch.

Curiosity got me, and as soon as I logged in, Instagram served me a video from a woman I’ve followed for years talking about how sick she was of all the YAP challenge content and saying some not-so-nice things about the other business owner.

Honestly, I was kind of shocked. So I did my own digging, and Jessi Jean (the YAP challenge woman) was actually really humble about the whole thing.

A few days later, the first woman posted an apology about how worked up she’d gotten, which I actually thought was pretty cool, but then she shared more about why she was so upset… and whew, the green-eyed monster was roaring!

And what I saw was that, underneath all of it wasn’t just annoyance; it was comparison.

It was that feeling of, “I’ve spent years growing this business, and this other person did it overnight,” which, from the surface, can absolutely look true even when it isn’t.

And that’s the part I think is worth talking about, because we are all guilty of this at some point.

If you’ve been in business long enough, you’re going to see someone get bigger, grow faster, sell more, or start doing something similar after you and still seem to get traction faster than you did.

Highlights, not History

The problem is that social media gives you the highlights, not the history.

You see the launch number, not the years behind it.

You see the polished content, not the pivots, the bad ideas, the awkward drafts, the failed offers, the months where nothing seemed to work, or the private cost of building what they built.

That’s why comparison is so sneaky. Most of the time, you are not reacting to the truth. You’re reacting to the story your brain made up from a few posts, a reel, and a surface-level glance that makes something look “overnight” when it absolutely was not.

That doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you human.

But if you stay in that spiral too long, you’ll start borrowing insecurity from the internet and treating somebody else’s visible success like it’s proof that you’re behind, less qualified, or doing it wrong.

Friend, hear me: You’re NOT!!

Their lane is their lane, and your job is to stay in yours. Focus on your strengths, remember how much of the story you are not seeing, and come back to the work that actually belongs to you.

Their success was earned (whether you saw the work they put in or not) and you are earning yours. And someone else’s accomplishments do not diminish yours!

Weekly Challenge

So here’s your reset for the week.

To prevent yourself from getting sucked in, do these three things:

• Notice when admiration starts turning into agitation.
• Stop filling in the blanks with a made-up story about how easy or fast it was for them.
• Keep your own evidence vault of wins, lessons, pivots, and proof that you are making progress, even if the path has changed.

And when you get sucked in anyway, do these three things:

• Get off the app.
• Name what’s actually happening: “Yep, I’m comparing again.”
• Open that evidence vault and remind yourself what you’ve built, what you’ve learned, and what skills you’re carrying forward, because none of it was wasted.

Everything you’ve done counts. Even the detours. Even the seasons where you changed direction. Even the things that didn’t work taught you something you’re taking into your future success.

And if you need help pulling those receipts together, I’ve got a little something coming for you: The Refill prompt. It’s going to help you document your progress so your brain has somewhere better to look than somebody else’s highlight reel.

The goal isn’t to never feel jealous. It’s to catch it faster and not let it drive the emotional bus!

Reply to this or DM me and tell me what helps you reset when comparison tries to hijack your brain. I love hearing the things people do to come back to themselves, and yes, this is absolutely your chance to brag on yourself a little.

Thanks for reading. Keep showing up, keep taking the next step, because the caffeine is strong… and so are you.

Till next time!

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